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But they're revealed here in zoomed-out hindsight. My notes here can't describe it. You have to read the whole book. Deep look at romantic relationships. But interlaced in his story are powerful lessons about relationships. My heart rate is racing as I tear through this riveting book.
Darren captures and spreads the entrepreneurial spirit better than anyone I know. I've been a successful entrepreneur for 25 years but The Entrepreneur Roller Coaster just got me more excited and enlightened than I've been in a long time.
You must read and USE this immediately! Powerful thoughts on not running, distracting, or escaping, but sticking with something all the way through. Profound philosophy on facing the negative emotions head-on and getting to know them well, instead of trying to avoid them or escape. Classic self-help book, in the best sense. Inspired the hell out of me. Mostly fundamentals I had heard before, but put in a very energetic go-do-it way. If all we needed was more information, everyone with an Internet connection would live in a mansion, have abs of steel, and be blissfully happy.
Masterpiece of cultural observations. I wish there were more books like this.
My Wood Egg books were created with the same goal. Insights into different countries' cultures.
Some amazing, like the reason for American's lack of manners, or Japanese procedures. My detailed notes don't do it justice because I practically underlined the entire book, I loved it so much. Very inspiring, and sparks a lot of further discussion. Amazing book about willpower from Stanford psychology professor who teaches just this. Killer first point: The best way to improve your self-control is to see how and why you lose control. This is a better book than the other book on Willpower here on my list, because it's more actionable, better written, better presented.
Really amazing IF you act on it! It's all about the resistance, avoiding distractions, getting serious. Here he dives more into the mindset shift of thinking of your art as a hobby versus a real career. This stuff shakes me to the core, every time. Any introvert should like this book.
Wonderful info and insights about introversion.
It'll help you defend your preference for low-stimulus environments. A true manifesto. A call to action. A kick in the butt for any creative person. Great thoughts on overcoming the resistance to creating. Aimed at already-successful people.
The personality traits that brought you to success personal discipline, saying yes to everything, over-confidence are the same traits that hold you back from going further! Where you need to listen to lead, and don't let over-confidence make you over-commit.
Stinging counter-intuitive insights that hit very close to home for me. Great specific suggestions for how to improve. A masterpiece. An amazing overview of everything you need to know. Covers all the basics, minus buzz-words and fluff. Look at my notes for an example, but read the whole book.